People often say we have to be ourselves, be authentic etc.

Yes, we should be.

But, I feel many people are confused difference between what being authentic and be selfish. 

We always should respect others even being yourselves.

We always compassionate others and kind to others even when you are authentic.

Being yourselves does not mean you can hurt others or disrespect them, or treat like doormat.

I believe being yourself is more like treating you as you.

Saying no to others when you feel unconfortanle, or not put you into some boxs that labled you as like typical something or someone like typical some nationality, mom or dad or someone’s expectations.

We have to know the difference between being your self and being selfish.

People who think they can do whatever they do tend to they do not really care about others.

But, this is not what people say be yourself.

We always have to respect others and ourselves.

I believe this is fundamental of any type of relationship including with yourself.