When life is not easy or sweet, we can really easily become a victim of life. Complaining everything what you have experienced , blaming other people who put you in the situation etc. I believe we all experience this kind of mindset and some kind of dark night. Usually, people can get out of this mindset eventually, but, some people keep complaining everything and as if they try to act like they are a victim of thier life or someone. As if always their external circumstances make them think or feel they are victims.

This is the same as if you are happy or not. Yes, when we have something, when we are in a good situation, of course we are happy. But, even your circumstances are not ideal, you can be happy, and even when you seem you have everything many people still are not happy.

Why? Because, happiness is coming from within you. Not from outside.

When you can appreciate and happy what you have now, you usually have peace in you and happy with your life. But, when you cannot see what you have and blessings you have now, then, you focus on your lack not blessings and this leads you unease and always you are lack everything even you have what you wanted, and not happy. Because you don’t have anything that satisfy you.

Once you realize the things you have now and thank what you are given, then, you are in happiness, not in lack mentality. You can start next challenge from fulfilled feelings.

It is the same to get out of victim mentality. You are not a victim but you decide you are. Look at what you have and what you have experienced, you will find something good in your life. Do you want to enjoy the good things you have or you want to chase a ghost to fulfill your egos to prove someone or something that you cannot prove?

You might have some hard time, but, know that you and your life decide what you want to experience. So,, you acknowledge this and say you are not a victim but a victor to overcome your problems. Look your blessings rather than your lack. Grass is always greener on the other side if you always see until you see good things you have and look inside of you and know your grass is always green and just perfect green for you.

Once you realize this you will become a victor of your life. Our life is not a race to compete with others but a journey to grow our soul.